June 12, 2019 – 5 min read
Are you 25 to 34 years old? Then you need to read this [again and again] let it really soak in, and then probably share it with a friend for further discussion.
There’s nothing magical about accomplishing anything by the age of 30. I repeat, NOTHING MAGICAL at all, about accomplishing anything by not only 30, but for any age really.
This milestone date, although looked upon with great scrutiny, doesn’t define who you are, or what you’ll become. It is just a number! And for someone who is well past that “number”, I can honestly say that it really doesn’t mean shit!
Look at it like this: Whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish. Whatever it is that’s driving you, try with all your heart to continue on your path, without letting any negative thoughts throw punches to beat you down, wear on your mind or inhibit you through lack of action.
I myself went through all of these emotions, and I’m here to tell you that it is simply not true. You shouldn’t have accomplished anything by this age, and damn sure shouldn’t walk around feeling down on yourself or sad about it.
Think about it like this: You’re most likely less than halfway through your life span, right? Considering you take good care of yourself, eat well, exercise regularly and stay under the care of a doctor annually, or at least when you get sick, you should live well into your late 70’s or early 80’s, and for some, even longer. So if you\’re barely “not quite halfway” there, what makes you believe this nonsense?
I’ll tell you what it is…it’s your eyes and your ears! You can’t help but compare your current status to everything you see and hear, being crammed down your throat on all of the social media outlets. This flow of information (which for the record is often total bullshit) is constantly pouring into your brain and clouding your perspective. Well, it’s a combination of this and all of your self-imposed goals which you failed to follow through on. Which if you really sit back and think about for a minute, were probably too lofty to begin with. All of this data, combined, has created a huge roadblock which has now tripped you up into believing a lie.
Do you agree? Good, now are you getting it and asking “if this is true, then what do I do about it?” Well friend, I’m glad you asked.
Shake it off! Push reset! Look in the mirror and tell yourself “it’s totally OK that I am where I am today.” That’s it. No pill to take. No e-book to buy. No overpriced seminar to attend. Nothing. So when your mind is wandering and you’re feeling down, or as often as you have to, look in that mirror again and again, and repeat that simple phrase.
Along with this practice of self-talk, you’ve got to really give yourself permission to try new things! Don’t be stuck on one thing for too long. This will add to the doubt that you’ll ever accomplish anything and that’s exactly what you need to avoid. Instead, try everything. Yes, everything! If you’ve ever had a thought that starts with these words, “Wouldn’t it be cool if…”, then that’s exactly the thing you should explore. And if you try and fail, good for you! Your failures are the places where the building blocks of personal growth are stacked high. These experiences are rich with information and pay dividends for a lifetime.
Anyway, if you are in this age range and you have accomplished some extraordinary things, then good for you! I’m proud of you. Just know that you’re not the norm and if you really want to leave a legacy, be sure you’re maintaining what you’ve built through best practices AND pulling those along with you that might struggle with this, yet have extraordinary untapped talents!
If you have not accomplished anything, at least anything significant in your own eyes, you’ve got to let it slide, and focus on being happy in the minutes, hours and days that you have been gifted with. After all, this time of your life will pass all too quickly and you’ll end up slipping into your 40’s having never really connected with the version of yourself, of who you are today. I know I did, and regret is a very unwanted companion.